One day during the holiday vacation, my sister and I were playing the "or" game. For those of you who don't know what the "or" game is, let me explain. In this game, a person presents a question of two choices. The other people would have to pick Choice A or Choice B. There is no other answer besides Choice A or Choice B. None of that "neither" or "both" junk. Simple as that.
Her question to me was this: If you were with the love of your life for years now, engaged and about to be married in a week... Would you rather have them leave you by cheating on you or have them leave you by becoming a Priest/Nun?
Almost everybody, when asked that question, chose the first answer. Their reasoning lies behind the fact that they'll be able to get over it better by being able to be mad. Going through the emotions of being cheated on and then getting over it is better than the other choice.
I, on the other hand, was pretty much the only one that answered choice B. I would rather have that person leave me for God than for some human. I can't be mad about that, can I? Atleast I know that I can't top the Almighty One. If she were to leave me for another person, I'd keep asking myself why, and what does she see in him, and this and that. I'd end up putting myself down and scratching my head every second. My pride & self-esteem would die. I would no longer be able to trust anyone when it comes to love. But if she chose to be with God, then I really have no choice but to get over it. (Unless in the case of 'Saving Silverman'.)
Being cheated on SUCKS. Imagine, being blind-sided by that. Finding out from someone else that there's something going on with your girl and another person. Seeing them two together somewhere, and you ask her later on who that was, and she denies anything more than a friend of a friend. Finding out they've been talking and spending time together for about a month. And all this time you had no idea because you were giving her the space that she requested. Lies and more lies. Do you know what that does to someone's trust? Do you know what that does to a person? Being cheated on SUCKS.
Forgiving is one thing, but forgetting is a whole other story.
So I ask, if anyone reads this: If you were with the love of your life for years now, engaged and about to be married in a week... Would you rather have them leave you by cheating on you or have them leave you by becoming a Priest/Nun?
If they do cheat on you, would you take them back?
If they become a Priest/Nun, would you still be close with them?